Sexuality: what does it really mean? Many of us have, at one time or another in our lives, dealt with the issue of "sexuality", but very few realize that it does not stop at the body. Sexuality is to do with the image that we have of our bodies and our selves. It goes far beyond the physical implications: it is a form of energy, in fact the highest that we know of. Sexuality affects all aspects of our lives; in what form, that is up to us.
Sexuality in itself is something pure and positive, something quite natural. We deny this - deny that it is a part of us - deny our selves. Can it be denied that we are male or female, are able to bear children, can find and feel love?
Whether man or woman, boy or girl, it is important that we accept and are at peace with our sexuality, which is also our self. If this cannot be done, for whatever reason (education, religion, etc) then we are not in touch with ourselves. The consequence is that we, consciously or otherwise, view ourselves as inadequate - too ugly, too small, too big, too old, too young, frigid, impotent - the list goes on, and each of us could add more words. In short, we cannot see ourselves as a "complete man" or a "complete woman" - whatever complete may mean!
Many problems that lead to diseases can arise from this imbalance within ourselves. Infertility, impotence, frigidity, fear of relationships...all these problems often do not require surgery or medication to be rectified. It is generally a psychological issue, where the affected person is resigned and unwilling to change.
It is so simple to just be woman or man - just as we are, as ourselves. We can give ourselves as well as others so much energy and so much love - both on a physical and mental level - this is sexuality. The first thing is to be at peace with your own sexuality, and then be comfortable with that of your partner's. Forgiveness and acceptance is the key.
Systematic Sexual Therapy During systematic sexual counseling, I guide you in a sensitive and open manner through the issues and problems that you are facing. This is usually the first time that the person has an opportunity to speak freely about existing issues that they are facing, either with themselves or their partner. Solutions are then developed and discussed, which allow for changes to be made. In practice, this means that restrictions, attitudes and feelings are no longer perceived as burdens - rather as things to be accepted by losing their restrictive influence. This brings brightness and clarity, both as a pair and as individuals.